WHAT HAVE YOU LEARNED FROM PAST/PRESENT RELATIONSHIPS?
Please share what you have learned from your past/present relationships......
What I've learned:
-To go into a relationship based on a lie that relationship is doomed from the start.....
--The closest you can get to changing a man/woman that dosen't treat you right is to let him/her experience loosing you. Note: You are rarely the beneficiary of this method.
--How well you know yourself has a direct connection with how happy you'll be in a relationship (or life in general)
- Communication, patience and trust are the keys to a healthy relationship.
What I've learned:
-To go into a relationship based on a lie that relationship is doomed from the start.....
--The closest you can get to changing a man/woman that dosen't treat you right is to let him/her experience loosing you. Note: You are rarely the beneficiary of this method.
--How well you know yourself has a direct connection with how happy you'll be in a relationship (or life in general)
- Communication, patience and trust are the keys to a healthy relationship.
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Permalink Reply by Love Muffin on -
I’ve learned to listen to myself more. If it doesn’t feel right then maybe it’s not. I learned that Love has no boundaries. Meaning you can love anyone man, woman whatever you heart desires. I’ve learned how to listen, to be attentive to someone other then myself... shit I could right a book about what I’ve learned.... In my present relationship I have learned to let down my guard and be loved and how to love unconditionally and I love her for showing me that :-)
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Permalink Reply by Estee_Lauder on -
past- anytime someone doesn't make you feel like you should...if they aren't willing to work it out its time to have openings for a replacement.
ANYTIME he doesn't put in as much as you do(or not at all).... see above.
if you can tolerate utter SHIT from someone...& you do nothing about it, chances are you deserve it. never tolerate more than you have to.
FOR ADVICE ON RELATIONSHIPS.....dont go to your single , miserable, battery operated orgasms having girl & boyfriends...go to a good couple , someone MARRIED or someone who is known to be stable in relationships :) its like getting a hair stylist , would let someone do YOUR HAIR who flunked beauty school twice & has really fucked up hair?
-notice, whenever I get MY hair done ,its always fabuous, even when I do my own hair.
*Present*
if someone treats you like royalty...KEEP THEM! Don't let pride get in the way of that one that makes you happy.
if ALL YOUR FRIENDS love your boo as much as you do , & you always hear:
"yall look good together"
"yall were made for each other"
" when are you 2 getting married?"
then if anything happens you don't agree with...work it out.
If someone is willing to work things out with you ...& come to a resolution with both of you smiling & happy...Hes a keeeeeperrrrrrr!!!!!!
if someone can bring forth the positives & dwell on what makes you 2 happy & if the realities are all green lights & good things, he's a keeperrrr!!!!
if someone can honestly put in their entire heart into a relationship & you do as well & the outcome is beautiful....hes a keeperrrr!!!!
& lastly, I learned that through good & bad days, especially bad days if they can hold & embrace you through the rain & make you feel special ...hes a keeperrrrr!!!!
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Permalink Reply by HoneyDip on -
I can't stand for someone who has only been in a relationship a few months to come at me thinking they know everything about men, raising kids an relationships. If you haven't at least been through as much as I have such as: living with a man a least 5yrs. (cause you don't really know anyone until you live under the same roof) or had a child don't even think of coming at me with your so called advice about my relationship! You will definitely get the 'WTF COULD YOU POSSIBLY KNOW ABOUT MY SITUATION' look.......
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Permalink Reply by Ms.NeeCee on -
I have learned that I am tired. lol I have truly learned that I have to love myself first before I can love anyone else. That has been the most valuable lesson. Appreciate yourself because if you can't feel good about you no one else will. When you dress do it for you make yourself beautiful because you know you are. Not so you can wait around for someone else to tell you, because they might be telling you all the wrong things.
The second best thing I have learned is that it is always beautiful in the beginning. So be patient! Don't go rushing in to anything or falling in love with everything. Get to know a person because after the honeymoon comes real life and you have to be prepared for it. If it is love, love takes time so wait for it. Too many times we fall in love with the sex, the roses, the cards, the nice gestures, the shopping, the money, or the conversation. When that stops or slows down make sure it was the person you fell in love with not what they have or did. So you won't end up with a psycho or a stalker. lol or worse
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Permalink Reply by HoneyDip on
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Amen, Amen.........NeeCee were you reading my mind when you wrote this....lolol I know exactly how you feel.
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Permalink Reply by Shay Butta on -
Amen.
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Permalink Reply by BygBrwnEyez on -
From past realationships i've learned not to take on someone elses "project". You can't turn a hoe into a housewife, that works for both sexes. I learned that i'm not a teacher, and i don't have time for a student. There are just some things you should already know. I don't have the time to educate you on being a "man"
Fom present relationships i've learned to just go with the flow. He is not responsible for the idiotic children i've dealt with in the past. I can be guarded without having my guard up. I'm learning that i am a priority and not just an option
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Permalink Reply by RoRo From the Ashes on -
I have learned that online relationships are for suckers. Its not real, and no matter how much fantasy you pump into it, it never will be. I'll be damned if i use a damn computer to fulfill my sexual needs when i have all these ding dings outside gettin fresh air and thangs. just strollin all through the city, waving so lusciously my way.
although ding dings may be a singular term i will use soon, I'll keep ya posted * wink* LMAO!
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Permalink Reply by HoneyDip on
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LMAO!!! RoRo you are a mess... I do feel when it comes to online relationships its the long distance ones that usually don't seem to work out. I feel meeting someone online who lives in your area is Ok because you can physically meet and date and really get to know one another. On the other hand the long distance internet relationships are so risky since you can't physically be with one another on a regular basis and for me that is very important. I don't think I can ever have a long distance relationship I tried it before and it just wasn't right for me at all.
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Permalink Reply by Jazzy(Ms. Highly Favor) on -
cosign. u KNOW what went on with me Ro. lol. and i cant talk about the ding thing but i will say i dont think it can replace someone being in the same place with you
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