Working my M%#thF^$king NERVES!!!!!

okay here's the scoop. my man and i have been doing great, but there is this little interference that's really starting to bug me. HIS EX!!! now let me give you a little about me. I'm the type of girl who has no problem with someone being friends with their ex, as long as you follow these simple rules. 1.) know your boundaries 2.) let them know the Do's and definately the DON'Ts 3.) remind them I"M IN A RELATIONSHIP 4.) (and most importantly) RESPECT what he has found and let the past be the past. Im not up for fighting a man's battle i believe that if you have made a decision stick with it, don't allow things to come between your relationship. but what do i do when the ex is pushing it should i say something to her or should i let him handle it??? i don't want to come off as a B%*ch but.... if need be i will. (we all know that all women are capable of acting with propriety aka home training) so do i fall back??? or do i check her ass?? lol... feedback would be great

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Permalink Reply by DaniFAB the Diva on February 23, 2009 at 7:49pm: I completely agree with Tamara...but if that dont work...go with TamFAB...somtimes folks will give you no choice.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by RoRo From the Ashes on February 24, 2009 at 1:33am: Yes Tee, you got two for the price of one, in Tamara's advice. Theres just one thing bothering me. What is your ex doing or saying in all of this? Because his role is definitive in this as well. If she is coming on so hard, could it be that he is making it easy for her to do so? No judgement on ya mans, just a consideration i would ponder like checking off a list. If he really isnt doing anything to goad her and is telling her off then it should be a done dada. If she persists i would let your man know that if he can't keep her off, you will. While Tam holds the earings I will be standing outside watching out, pretending the ladies room has a minor dysfunction and is out of order! *wink*; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Tee aka Epitomeof FAB on March 7, 2009 at 6:22pm: lol thanks....; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Tee aka Epitomeof FAB on March 7, 2009 at 6:20pm: lol thanks for the help i know its late but trust the advice is still needed; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Tee aka Epitomeof FAB on March 7, 2009 at 6:24pm: lol i love the metaphor; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Tee aka Epitomeof FAB on March 7, 2009 at 6:24pm: yeah you see thats what i thought too... but i like to think with logic so i investigate then whoop ass then ask questions later LOL... so he better not get caught up because i have no time for anyone's weak ass game. Buuuttt.... if it's meant to show up it will come to the light.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Abrandnewday on March 7, 2009 at 6:54pm: Definitely let your man handle his business. Never, never, never confront the other woman. She is his ex and therefore it's his responsibility to check her and establish/maintain those boundaries. If he's a good man (and I'm sure he is), he will stand up for you and your relationship. Be blessed!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Tee aka Epitomeof FAB on March 7, 2009 at 7:05pm: thanks for the advice sweetie; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Kineta on March 7, 2009 at 7:18pm: First of all give him the chance to handle it. If in the event he doesn't the first person that you check in the ASS is him . Then if need be you check her ass with the quickness. But if you have to check her and not him then they don't have a problem with what they are doing. In this case you have to decide if he is even worth your time to be with!; ▶ Reply to This